make love

make love 1.6.15
do not try to force her
to have an orgasm

if she only wanted
to get off
she would use a vibrator
alone

instead do what she
cannot do
alone for herself

do not focus on her
cunt or her clit
make love to the whole woman
——her heart and her hopes
——her head and her health

to have good sex
you must first
have good life


Having just posted a book review of Vagina I’ll go on and post a poem along similar lines.   Although, after reading that book I need to re-evaluate my use of the word “cunt.”  Go read it and you’ll know what I mean.

I wrote this reacting to the endless advice about “technique” and other porn-ish trash that permeates the internet and sneaks into my various news feeds and blog readers as well as some of the issues that arose in various relationships I’ve been foolish enough to participate in.

There seems to be this trend where orgasm is now over-valued at the expense of intimacy and romance and relationship.

I have problems with both the slut-shaming purity culture and the porn & objectification test for sexual compatibility reaction to it.  Neither one values women as whole human beings.

About m

My ego wants to think I'm a writer but my heart knows I'm just another one of God's Kids who sometimes has words to say. 2 human kids and 3 feline kids call me Mom. Or Mooooooom. Or mewom, depending which you ask. I'm kinda-sorta busy being a student again; this time I signed myself up for a bizarre torture known as Graduate School. Theoretically in 4ish years I'll have earned some more nice letters to put with my name. Let's face it, I'm addicted to learning and probably need rehab to restore me to sanity and remove the obsession to read books. I don't remember what free time is but I think I like to spend it sleeping or playing in the mud on a river bank.
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