I’m home from work due to a headache that wouldn’t go away for anything. I had a long nap and it’s 80% better now.
I haven’t ranted about Icks for a while but something happened the other day that really set my teeth on edge. He called to get her SSN and while at it asked if her birthday was in February. Her birthday is in January!
BF had the misfortune of seeing my right after that conversation. I was still ranting about it. All he said was “I know when her birthday is.” And I thought, Yes, and that is why I love you.
We single moms talk (and blog) much about our dating adventures. But as this relationship is maturing into something more serious I am also thinking about it from the other perspective. What would it be like to fall in love with a woman with two little kids in tow? My man is doing a remarkably good job of adjusting to not only being in a relationship but to also suddenly being part of a family. I had nine months to get used to the thought of a child joining my life, he fell in love with me and voila, had a toddler and a preschooler added to his life.
It seems that there are only 2 kinds of men who are willing to get involved with the craziness of a single mom’s life. Those who are looking to take advantage of her and those who truely have a heart of gold. Luckily I have (finally) found one who falls into the second category. How must it be to be in his shoes when I’m ranting about my ex, who I still have to deal with on a regular basis? It’s not like I can make a clean brake here. My daughter will always be apart of my life and as long as she wants to see her DNA donor I’ll support her in it (although at the moment she’s small enough I mostly try to maintain contact so that the option will be open to her when she’s old enough have her own opinion of him.)
I know that this cannot be an easy thing for BF to watch me deal with. But he does, and does so with grace and kindness. And it is one more reason I have fallen so deeply for him.